Once again I admire your rawness, Steve. Your ability to pinpoint issues and articulate the root causes and possible changes necessary is impressive. While implementing change is difficult, to at least be recognizing the psychological impacts and pondering the deeper effects is more than what in my estimation 90% of average men do. Most …
Once again I admire your rawness, Steve. Your ability to pinpoint issues and articulate the root causes and possible changes necessary is impressive. While implementing change is difficult, to at least be recognizing the psychological impacts and pondering the deeper effects is more than what in my estimation 90% of average men do. Most don’t give a shit what makes them tick, and I know my dad didn’t. I never ever heard him apologize and if my mom were alive today, I’m pretty sure she would say that in their 55 years of marriage he never attempted to change and certainly never talked about it. How do we break the cycle? I believe obviously awareness is first and then desire. Where do good and loving and validating people come from? Some I believe are frankly for whatever reason born that way, and God bless them but for those who struggle, I believe awareness was key and small conscious changes have turned into bigger changes for me over time. Ghandi’s quote has always been a mantra for me...”be the change you want to see in the world”. I learned to stop waiting and hoping for people to “be a certain way” or do a certain thing. That’s out of my control and I cannot change the past. If I want the world to be loving and kind, I first have to be loving and kind. It takes one person at a time, becoming aware and deciding to change. It’s possible, I know it is. I trust it is for you, too. Thank you, as always for sharing yourself with us. I think you are gifted and amazing!
Once again I admire your rawness, Steve. Your ability to pinpoint issues and articulate the root causes and possible changes necessary is impressive. While implementing change is difficult, to at least be recognizing the psychological impacts and pondering the deeper effects is more than what in my estimation 90% of average men do. Most don’t give a shit what makes them tick, and I know my dad didn’t. I never ever heard him apologize and if my mom were alive today, I’m pretty sure she would say that in their 55 years of marriage he never attempted to change and certainly never talked about it. How do we break the cycle? I believe obviously awareness is first and then desire. Where do good and loving and validating people come from? Some I believe are frankly for whatever reason born that way, and God bless them but for those who struggle, I believe awareness was key and small conscious changes have turned into bigger changes for me over time. Ghandi’s quote has always been a mantra for me...”be the change you want to see in the world”. I learned to stop waiting and hoping for people to “be a certain way” or do a certain thing. That’s out of my control and I cannot change the past. If I want the world to be loving and kind, I first have to be loving and kind. It takes one person at a time, becoming aware and deciding to change. It’s possible, I know it is. I trust it is for you, too. Thank you, as always for sharing yourself with us. I think you are gifted and amazing!