You'd love DBT. The DBT program is usually like an intensive 12 weeks (time limited), goes through four modules that address a lot of the areas you bring up as difficult to unravel and is entirely skills based, which means you are connecting behavior A to skill B, and you can practice that skill and then deploy it when you've met a certa…
You'd love DBT. The DBT program is usually like an intensive 12 weeks (time limited), goes through four modules that address a lot of the areas you bring up as difficult to unravel and is entirely skills based, which means you are connecting behavior A to skill B, and you can practice that skill and then deploy it when you've met a certain set of parameters (like you've noticed you're suddenly a 7 out of 10 on the anger scale and you have no idea what happened). Oddly enough, I believe the Wise Teens program Schrier cites is a DBT program, but the protocol was originally designed for people with emotional problems, not just your average teen, so while it might not work for them, it may be helpful for you (or me, or specific people struggling with serious emotional regulation issues). DBT resources are also widely available online, and while not as great as doing a program its still awesome to have in your back pocket.
I feel like a weird therapy pusher when I talk about DBT but it's only because I walked this walk myself and man oh man did DBT turn my life around (as someone who also had serious emotional regulation and distress tolerance issues).
Also, love the splinter analogy and so glad you're grappling with this, especially trying to point out that there's obviously a middle ground between obsessing over one's experience to the point of insanity and just ignoring it until you break.
You'd love DBT. The DBT program is usually like an intensive 12 weeks (time limited), goes through four modules that address a lot of the areas you bring up as difficult to unravel and is entirely skills based, which means you are connecting behavior A to skill B, and you can practice that skill and then deploy it when you've met a certain set of parameters (like you've noticed you're suddenly a 7 out of 10 on the anger scale and you have no idea what happened). Oddly enough, I believe the Wise Teens program Schrier cites is a DBT program, but the protocol was originally designed for people with emotional problems, not just your average teen, so while it might not work for them, it may be helpful for you (or me, or specific people struggling with serious emotional regulation issues). DBT resources are also widely available online, and while not as great as doing a program its still awesome to have in your back pocket.
I feel like a weird therapy pusher when I talk about DBT but it's only because I walked this walk myself and man oh man did DBT turn my life around (as someone who also had serious emotional regulation and distress tolerance issues).
Also, love the splinter analogy and so glad you're grappling with this, especially trying to point out that there's obviously a middle ground between obsessing over one's experience to the point of insanity and just ignoring it until you break.